Healthy parenting is not taught; we learn as we go. I was no exception, I learned through experience. My first born child, like every other, was my guinea pig. It was with her that I practiced my parenting techniques. Sometimes I was proud of my mothering abilities; often I realized that my mistakes were rampant. And yet, because Shan chose to be my first born child, she often took on her role with grace and fortitude.
It's been said that our children are not our friends and we should not treat them as such. I dared to believe different. I grew into the mother I was proud to be-come, because my children were my best friends. They chose me to be the one to confide in; the one they shared their thoughts and secrets with. And it was me they asked, when life got to be more than they could handle, for counsel and advice. I would not have chosen any other way.
There was a good reason for this. At some point in our relationship, I decided to listen to them instead of judging them. In order for me to help them through their growing pains, I had to remember my own. And in that moment of remembering who I was, I also remembered how I wanted to be treated by my parents. And then I became that parent. A parent free to be me. It was really that easy.
To give you a better idea of my parenting techniques, I am happy to share some of our personal stories with you hoping that you will remember who you were long ago and having compassion for those you have brought forth not to own, but to teach and guide along their own wonderful journey called childhood.
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http://healingyou101-parenting.blogspot.com/
